I want to be beautiful but not hot. I want to be humble but not lack self confidence. I want to be happy but not in denial. I want to be a balanced individual, and I hope to stay this way no matter what life throws at me.


Of relationships

For the majority of the time that my other half and I have been together, we were physically apart. Many friends indeed question how we managed to keep things going for so long.

I never really gave it much thought, but I do feel that it boils down to several factors.

1. Selfless love

If you love a person selflessly, then you can make it work regardless of the circumstances. A good example is the relationship we have with our parents. That to me would be the pinnacle of selfless love, where they will support you no matter what you want to do and where you may be. This is the level of love both parties need to have for each other, in order for the distance to make it work.

2. Make time for each other and communicate

We are lucky to live in an era where communication tools are efficient, convenient and fast. Make time for each other no matter how busy you are. A quick call before you sleep, or if you are living in different time zones (we were for 5 years), a mutually friendly time to call each other. 

Arrange holidays together periodically and enjoy each other’s company.

3. Remember, you are partners who complement each other, not possessive beings who want to control each other

Sounds quite unbelievable given that the popular notion is if you are together you stay together and do everything together (right?). Well as a staunch believer of the concept that our lives are leased and we all have to go someday, no one really belongs to anybody. We don’t even technically belong to our parents, they raise us and we retain the prerogative to pursue our life goals etc. I am lucky enough to have a soulmate who sees eye to eye with me on this. When we are together, we make the most out of it. When we are apart, we make the most out of what we are doing so that the next time we meet, we can share experiences with each other.

4. Learn to enjoy your own company

I have never had a problem with enjoying my own company. Don’t get me wrong- I love talking to people and learning about their experiences etc, but am equally at ease spending weekends on my own. As I grow older, the likelihood of me feeling sorry for myself has diminished. Can’t say I am not enjoying this transition.

5. Trust each other 

This goes without saying of course.

And last but not least, think about the odds of you finding someone in your life who really makes you feel that each day is worth living. Not everyone has that. So treasure what you have and even if you are far from each other, you are never truly apart.



An old school friend recently came back from Inner Mongolia with breathtaking views of the autumn leaves.

I drew this last night.

Hope you like it as much as I do!Image

Three months after moving here, and still awaiting my shipment, I decided to paint. Amidst the chaos and most days, uncertainty, I seek solace in the fact that I can pour my heart into artistic follies such as this.

Quite hard to believe but a year ago today I was in the US, wrestling with a Jeep and trying not to collide into traffic. ^^

How fast time has flown.Image

My sincere apologies as I had pretty much neglected this blog for as long as I can remember. The usual reasons are too cliche to put here, but I will be honest. I wasn’t quite sure whether I could disclose on this blog that in true form and fashion, I suffered from a bout of Chinese culture shock. 

I suppose, as my mom rightly pointed out- that I came to the city with extremely high expectations. That I allowed no room or even margin for error, and that based on my previous visits- I could only enjoy this experience. I have experienced some spectacular highs and lows, but lets leave that for another day.

So a few months later and a much balanced view on things, I am back on this blog. Hopefully with my keen eye for detail and twisted sense of humour I will continue to at least self-entertain on this blog! 🙂

Hello from Beijing!

Three weeks have flown by literally since I landed on a rainy Tuesday night. I am settling in well and although managed ok without Facebook for three weeks, I decided that I had enough of accessing websites which were blocked every three seconds. So out came the purse and voila I now have a VPN.

I had time to put my thoughts on pen and paper and will slowly update my blog as I go along. In the meantime I hope you are all well!


On the 19th March 2012, about 4 months ago, a switch in my head flicked on.

I decided to join my local gym and participate in my first ever zumba class.

I remember wearing baggy pants, an oversized t-shirt and looking most unflattering. However I felt invigorated and a strong sense of happiness after one hour’s worth of what felt like fun clubbing moves as opposed to boring exercise regime.

I never looked back since.

Lost 10 kgs, 3 dress sizes and regained confidence which I never knew I had in my body.

This has been an amazing journey as well.

I sincerely hope to maintain fitness for life- it should be part of our lives as opposed to a quick fix.

Am really pleased.